Every person on this planet needs to take care of himself or herself.
It’s something we owe to our dignity as a human being.
And besides, who doesn’t want to be healthy and happy and whole? No one.
However, sometimes we get stuck in a rut or don’t know where to start. We all need a little help once in a while. In that spirit, I’d like to share a few ideas that will maybe get you on your feet so you can start or continue your self-care journey.
Try these four things:
1. Understand what self-care really is.
There are a lot of misguided ideas floating around about the definition of self-care. A lot people tend to think of it as bubble baths, scented candles, and pampering sessions.
And while these things can be a part of self-care–self-indulgence is sometimes a decided good–they do not really explain what self-care is all about.
Self-care, in brief, is taking care of yourself out of respect for yourself as a human being.
Consequently, self-care means looking after your physical and mental health, fostering your relationships, and feeding your spiritual life.
2. Identify the areas of your life where you fall short.
Even if you have a self-care routine, you should make it a practice to evaluate yourself frequently.
Is your physical health suffering? How is your mental health?
What is going on in your relationships? Are they healthy? Are they toxic? Or are they somewhere in between?
Do you pay any attention to the spiritual side of yourself?
Asking yourself all these questions will help you to sort out exactly where you stand. Maybe you have gotten complacent in one area. Maybe you have met your previous goals and are ready to move on to something bigger.
Or maybe you just need to know where to start.
You’ll never know if you don’t take the time to evaluate.
3. Get someone to help you if you need it.
So many of us could use therapy of some sort to improve our lives. Similarly, we might need a personal trainer, a nutritionist, or some other kind of healthcare professional.
Seeking such help is not a shameful thing but can be an integral part of self-care.
Make your doctor appointments, seek out a therapist, find a mentor or coach. If you have someone to lean on and to guide you, you will be able to take such better care of yourself.
4. Set goals.
Self-care practices in themselves have an end: to form a healthy, happy, whole human person.
But in order to achieve that goal, we need to have smaller goals along the way. We can’t just try to achieve perfection. If we do, we’ll indubitably fail.
If we look at each area of self-care–body, mind, relationships, spirituality–and set a small goal for each one, it will be much easier to move forward on our self-care journey.
To sum up:
- Understand what self-care really is.
- Identify the areas of your life where you fall short.
- Get help if you need it.
- Set goals.
We all need self-care, and we can always get better at it. Try these four steps to see if your self-care routine doesn’t improve.